Monday, September 6, 2010
Positive Discipline Tool Card - Eye to Eye
Have you noticed it doesn’t work when you sit on the couch and yell at your child from across the room?
1) Stop whatever you are doing. Get up and get close enough to your child to see his or her eyes.
2) You’ll notice that you speak more softly when you make the respectful effort to see your child’s eyes.
This tool card is similar to the Pay Attention and Listen tool cards. But I think we need more than one way to remember this concept. It makes such a big difference when our children feel like they have our undivided attention. Often we forget this concept for the sake of expediency. But if you stop and think about it, does it really save time when we are multi-tasking and treating our kids like objects on the chess board of life?
How long does it take to stop what we are doing, get down on our child's level, look in their eyes and speak to them respectfully. "Emma, could you please be in charge of getting your room cleaned up before we leave for our vacation?" Compare that to yelling down the stairs "Emma...you need to clean your room before we leave for vacation!!!" You will probably need to yell that same thing 3 or 4 times before the child will even acknowledge your existence. Especially if they happen to be watching television at the time. So ask yourself..."Which method is really more efficient?"