I'm sitting down to write this blog entry having just yelled at my kids for leaving the milk out. It went something like this... "WHY CAN'T YOU KIDS PUT THINGS AWAY AND PICK UP AFTER YOURSELF!!! IT'S AFTERNOON AND YOU'RE SITTING AROUND IN YOUR PAJAMAS! YOU'RE LAZY AND GOOD FOR NOTHING!!!"
Does any of that sound familiar? I don't usually lose it that bad, but I guess with all the holiday pressure I have hit my breaking point. Which brings me to the topic of this post. I have decided to spend the year of 2010 improving my parenting skills. To do this I will be utilizing the Positive Discipline Tool Cards pictured to the right. There are 52 Tool Cards and so I will be focusing on one tool card per week. My hope is that I can not only improve my parenting skills, but also improve my relationship with my children. If you would like to follow along, go ahead and click on the link and order your own set of tool cards.
If you do decide to join me, you will need to agree to the following terms.
1. We are entering this adventure with very low expectations. I find that whenever I decide to try something new with my children, I will often get more discouraged because it doesn't work right away. In fact, sometimes things will get worse before they get better. So it is important that we focus on the long-term results.
2. We will be consistent. Each Sunday we will choose a new tool card to work on for the following week.
3. We will involve our children. Instead of using these tool cards "on" our children, we will involve them in the process and use the tool cards "with" our children. Children are much more willing to cooperate when they feel like they are part of the process.
4. We will have a sense of humor. In the words of Bill Cosby, "Kids have brain damage". If you have children, then you know that kids often do inexplicable things. Trying to make sense of it is futile. So having a good sense of humor is mandatory.
5. We will be honest. If something works, we will share. If something doesn't work, we will share. Parenting is difficult and nobody is perfect. So we won't be pretending to be perfect. We will all be trying to improve together.
I will be choosing the first tool card on Sunday, January 3rd. I am looking forward to this new adventure!