Sunday, February 28, 2010
Positive Discipline Tool Card - Special Time
Schedule special time that is different from regular time.
1) Take the phone off the hook.
2) Take turns choosing an activity you both enjoy from a list you have brainstormed together.
3) Age Guidelines:
2-6 years old 10 min. /day.
7-12 - at least 30 min./ week
13 and older - Once a month something your teen can’t resist.
This is a great follow up to the Family Meetings Tool Card. Your weekly family meeting is a great time to schedule special time for the coming week. We just had our family meeting and discussed this topic. Gibson decided that he and I would play tennis and Emma decided that she and I would practice softball.
Of course we started our family meeting with compliments. I complimented Emma on her performance in the school play and I complimented Gibson on his school work. Then Emma wanted to join in on the compliments and so she complimented Gibson for not bugging her as much this past week. Hmmm...do backhanded compliments count? :-)
I'm not sure I agree with the 13 and older suggestion of "Once a month" for special time. I don't think that seems like enough special time with a teenager. I guess the assumption is that teenagers don't want to spend time with their parents, but I have found that even the most rebellious teenager will go out to breakfast once a week. Most teenagers will not say no to food, especially if they get to pick the place!
I already spend plenty of time with my children. In fact...I probably spend too much time with them. But this is "Special Time" which is different. If I am spending time with both children, there is still that element of competition for my affection. So I will be interested to see if spending special time with each child individually will have an effect on the sibling rivalry in our home.