Sunday, February 21, 2010
Positive Discipline Tool Card - Family Meetings
Enhance connection and cooperation with weekly family meetings.
Format for the Family Meeting:
1) Compliments and appreciations
2) Evaluation of past solutions
3) Agenda items - person can choose
a) Share feelings
b) Invite a discussion
c) Brainstorm for solutions
4) Calendar: scheduling, meal planning
5) Fun activity and dessert
Since we are meeting as a family each week to discuss the latest tool card, I thought it would be a good idea to choose the "Family Meeting" tool card this week. I think it is important to put some thought into how we format our family meetings. How we conduct our family meetings can make all the difference in the world as to how effective they will be. Dr. Jane Nelsen has a great article about Family Meetings on her website.
From our first experience today, I can tell you that the first step (compliments and appreciations) is the most important. That really seems to set the tone for a positive atmosphere. In fact, my son was moved to tears when I gave him a compliment for being a good friend. Friday evening we attended a school play because he wanted to support his friends that were acting in the play. It turned out to be a great family activity and it was fun to see my son interacting with his friends. So even if you forget a step here and there as you conduct your family meetings...be sure and make it a point to start with the compliments and appreciations.