Sunday, July 11, 2010

Positive Discipline Tool Card - Problem Solving

Use daily challenges as opportunities to practice problem solving WITH your children.

1) Brainstorm for solutions during family meetings or with one child.
2) Ask Curiosity Questions to invite your child to explore solutions.
3) For fights: “You kids can figure it out. Come back with your plan.”
4) For chores - Brainstorm what needs to be done and invite your kids to create a plan. Be willing to try their plan for a week.

One of the best things to come out of going through these Positive Discipline Tool Cards is the process of involving my children. Not only are they much more capable than I give them credit for, but it can be very entertaining to see their perspective. Check out the notes that Emma took during our family meeting today.


Karen said...

Love Emma's notes :)

I find myself suggesting to friends that they involve their children more in decisions, when I hear of troubles they are having.

It's become so natural for me to involve our kids in our household issues, thanks to Positive Discipline!

Single Dad Brad said...

Hey Karen,

It's funny how our kids will resist at first when we ask them to be involved, but when they see how empowering it can be, they can't wait to participate.

Anonymous said...

This will be a fun photo to save for Emma to show her children some day. :-) Since I can't seem to remember my google account password, I'll try posting this as your anonymous Mom.

Amy Bearce said...

I don't post often, but I wanted to let you know that I still check back every week to see what card has been chosen. I take it out of my cards and set it on my keyboard, where I can see it all week long. :) We're still struggling a lot with our four and six year old, but I like knowing that I'm trying my best to stay positive as a parent!

Dan Pearce said...

STOP ARGUING ABOUT STUPID THINGS!!! Haha, I love it. If only the world could figure out that little trick!

I love your blog, kids are capable of using their brains so much more than people give them credit for! My favorite line (and it drives my son nuts sometimes) is "what are you going to do about that?" when he comes to me with a problem.

He's only three, and I'm constantly amazed at what he comes up with. Just the other day he said, "dad, Lucky keeps licking me" I said, "what are you going to do about that?" He rolled his eyes and ran off. The next thing I knew I heard the roll of scotch tape being used. I walked in and found him attempting to seal the dog's mouth shut.

Haha, young, and his solutions aren't always practical, but good practice for his brain nonetheless.

Dan Pearce
Author, Single Dad Laughing