Sunday, May 30, 2010
Positive Discipline Tool Card - Kindness & Firmness
Kindness and Firmness at the Same Time
Some of us have a tendency to be too kind. Some of us have a tendency to be too firm.
Dignity and respect is created when you are kind and firm at the same time.
“I love you and the answer is, ‘No.’”
“I’m sorry you didn’t get ready for bed in time for a story. I have faith in you to be ready on time tomorrow night.”
The most important part of this Positive Discipline Tool Card (and probably the most difficult part) is learning how to be "Kind and Firm...AT THE SAME TIME". All of us know how to be kind, and most us know all too well how to be firm. But combining the two is a real art form. Personally I haven't mastered it yet. I have a tendency to be too kind until my children take advantage of me and then I have a tendency to be too firm until they conform to my wishes.
This will be a good concept to focus on this week. I'm not exactly sure how to be kind in the heat of the moment. Maybe I will incorporate some deep breathing techniques and start counting to 10. If you have any specific examples of situations where you incorporated kindness and firmness at the same time, that would be very helpful to share.