tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post5469218594072861377..comments2023-02-23T02:47:19.926-08:00Comments on Single Dad Brad: Positive Discipline Tool Card - Kindness & FirmnessSingle Dad Bradhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00793094188276469644noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-49267844480354627182010-05-31T13:54:48.723-07:002010-05-31T13:54:48.723-07:00I'm way too kind and my son knows it. He also...I'm way too kind and my son knows it. He also looks at me as the nurturer so, with discipline, it's a difficult balance to strike. A friend suggested this approach: "I love you but I don't love it when you are disrespectful." Or whatever. It seems to resonate. <br /><br />And I know my son's "currency" - his DS player. That gives me tons of leverage!Janeen T, aka: Ben's Mommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08343571019081505320noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-30863386913246004442010-05-30T16:05:32.725-07:002010-05-30T16:05:32.725-07:00My example isn't about a discipline issue real...My example isn't about a discipline issue really but it's an experience I had with my 13 year old that I'm proud of.<br /><br />My daughter takes voice lessons and was to do a master class, which involves her singing in front of her fellow students and teacher. She voluntarily signed up for the class and then the day of, started letting me know she really didn't want to do it. Then as we were getting ready to get into the car, she told me that she wasn't going. She was in tears and said she didn't know it well enough and that she just couldn't go. <br /><br />I was so tempted to take over and call the teacher and make an excuse for her because it's so hard to see your child so upset and nervous (and I wouldn't have had the nerve to do it either so I could totally relate!). <br /><br />I thought for a minute, and then said really firmly but definitely kindly, that I KNEW she could do this, she had been practicing and working towards this, and that I could understand that she was nervous. I reminded her that she had made a commitment that she needed to follow through on and that her teacher was counting on her.<br /><br />She pleaded all the way to the class for me to turn around and was really mad at me for taking her, but after the class she was practically skipping out, and was proud of herself for following through (and she wasn't so mad at me anymore!).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com