This week I am trying to ask curiosity questions instead of telling my children what happened, what caused it to happen and what they should do about it. This morning I had a good experience trying this with my daughter. I was driving her to her orchestra practice. She plays the violin and there is a recital next week. The last couple of days she has been telling me that she wants to do a solo at the recital. Keep in mind that they have been practicing for this recital for 3 months and this is the first I have heard about a solo. But Emma was insisting that her teacher said she could do a solo.
I know that Emma is not ready to perform a solo at her recital, but rather than tell her that I decided to try and ask a curiosity question. So I said "What would you need to do if you wanted to perform a solo at the recital?". Then Emma said in a knowing tone "Practice..."
That was it. The conversation ended and there was nothing more to say. All I needed to do was ask a question which was enough to get Emma to think through the situation on her own. I am going to keep trying these curiosity questions this week, but I would love to hear if others out there are having any success with this tool card...or any of the other tool cards for that matter.
My daughter forgot her homework today even though I had asked her when I met her after school if she had it. After dinner, this is how our conversation went:
Audrey: Oh no, I forgot my homework.
Me: Oh dear. What can you do about that?
Audrey: Well, I guess I could stay in during break tomorrow.
Me: Sounds like a plan.
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