Sunday, May 2, 2010
Asking instead of telling invites children to develop their own thinking.
1) “What do you need to do to be ready for school on time?”
2) “Oops! What do you need to do to clean up the spilled milk?”
3) “How can you and your brother solve this problem?”
4) “What do you need to take if you don’t want to be cold outside?
5) “What is your plan for getting your homework done?”
I am the crowned king of "Telling" instead of "Asking". My tendency is to tell my kids what happened, what caused it to happen, how they should feel and what they should do about it. So all I need to do this week is the opposite of what I normally would do. This is basically the George Costanza of tool cards. For one week I will resist my instincts and do the opposite. When I am tempted to tell my children what to do, I will ask them instead.
For those of you unfamiliar with the George Costanza system...you can watch the following YouTube clip.