Instead of telling young children what NOT to do, teach them what they CAN do.
1) Instead of, “Don’t hit,” teach, “Touch nicely,” and demonstrate.
2) After teaching, remind by asking, “How do you touch nicely?”
3) Teach about throwing the ball outside. Then remind by asking, “Where do you throw the ball?”
4) Instead of, “Don’t touch the lamp,” say, “You can play with the pans.”
Okay parents with young children...this tool card is for you. I guess this could work for teenagers, but you might have to just reverse the statements since teenagers tend to do the opposite of what you say. So instead of "Please don't bug your sister." say "You should bug your sister more often because that really makes me happy and brings such a positive spirit into our home." Or instead of "Please clean your room" say "I really like what you've done with your room. Maybe we could start spending all of our family time in here?"