tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post6530214357678792652..comments2023-02-23T02:47:19.926-08:00Comments on Single Dad Brad: Positive Discipline Tool Card - ListenSingle Dad Bradhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00793094188276469644noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-68079883948648834292010-02-01T12:14:37.672-08:002010-02-01T12:14:37.672-08:00How is it going?
Isn't it surprisingly hard?
I...How is it going?<br />Isn't it surprisingly hard?<br />I find that I have to concentrate so hard to really listen--as opposed to look interested and nod my head. I pay attention to my body and their body and their actual words--have to be very mindful. Otherwise I get so distracted!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-47287832862068671902010-01-18T07:11:40.045-08:002010-01-18T07:11:40.045-08:00Hey, we must be thinking along the same lines Brad...Hey, we must be thinking along the same lines Brad. I wrote an article last week that is so related: Being a Good Listener While Parenting Teenagers: http://parentingteens.suite101.com/article.cfm/parenting_teenagers_being_a_good_listener<br /><br />This tool is so valuable yet so hard for us parents to use.Kellyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14783488753839334554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-66095176615706288452010-01-17T09:42:36.832-08:002010-01-17T09:42:36.832-08:00Hi Brad-
This is a hard one to do- but so importan...Hi Brad-<br />This is a hard one to do- but so important. So many times I have found that I jumped to conclusions about children and what they are trying to say or what I perceived just happened instead of listening to them and giving them credit for knowing what they are talking about! I am a first grade teacher- and with a classroom of 20 kids and a plate full of curriculum and high expectations- sometimes it can be hard to find (make) the time to stop and listen= but it is so important!! Thanks for doing this and keeping us all "listening!"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-17453381506055991452010-01-15T11:55:08.553-08:002010-01-15T11:55:08.553-08:00This tool card has been a GREAT help this week.
...This tool card has been a GREAT help this week. <br /><br />Lately when I pick my 8 year old up from school, he is really disappointed if one of his friends can't come over and he complains and gets angry which leads to him being upset all the way home. It snowballs so that EVERYTHING that he's done that day seems to have been awful. Most days I try to ask what good things happened and talk about setting up get-togethers for another day etc.<br /><br />This week I LISTENED, showed empathy and mostly gave him space to have his feelings. After that, the ranting didn't last as long and he apologized for making the walk home not very much fun.The Oakville Pearsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18068252091353528307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-25554279753776579632010-01-13T12:49:34.841-08:002010-01-13T12:49:34.841-08:00Thanks PixieGirl,
I don't know about the famo...Thanks PixieGirl,<br /><br />I don't know about the famous part, but hopefully I will be a better dad. :-)Single Dad Bradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00793094188276469644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-40970207524378324922010-01-13T09:56:34.299-08:002010-01-13T09:56:34.299-08:00Congrats Famous Brad, I always knew you'd do s...Congrats Famous Brad, I always knew you'd do something amazing someday! You are motivating so many people to re-evaluate and focus on what's really important. Parenting is one of those things that is soo complicated sometimes we just tend to survive. You have taken it to a new level of comittment and in the process have inspired many. Way to go! H <br /><br />"Having a family is like having a bowling alley installed in your brain."<br />Martin Mull<br /><br /><br />"Too often we give children answers to remember rather than problems to solve." <br />Roger LewinPixieGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028641305614879093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-11416593457390729302010-01-11T14:41:19.260-08:002010-01-11T14:41:19.260-08:00This is a really good one to practice.
I am a b...This is a really good one to practice. <br /><br />I am a big fan of Hindu mythology, and one of the crazier looking gods is Ganesh - he has an elephant head and a human body. The author Promod Batra describes the reason for this as such "Lord Ganeshjee's BIG HEAD inspires us to think big and think profitably; the BIG EARS prompt us to listen patiently to new ideas and suggestions; the NARROW EYES point to deep concentration needed to finish tasks in hand well and quickly; the LONG NOSE tells us to poke around inquisitively to learn more, and the SMALL MOUTH reminds us to speak less and listen more"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-44252502635008561432010-01-11T08:13:17.460-08:002010-01-11T08:13:17.460-08:00We introduced this card at our family meeting last...We introduced this card at our family meeting last night and my daughter said "Yeah Mom, it's like today when I was trying to show you something and you said you were busy". When I pointed out that I was right in the middle of doing something when she asked, my husband replied "Hey, wait, are you defending yourself?". Then I tried to explain, digging myself deeper into the "not listening" hole! We all broke out laughing and the mood at the meeting was one of the best yet!The Oakville Pearsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18068252091353528307noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-37042365503616655102010-01-10T20:58:46.485-08:002010-01-10T20:58:46.485-08:00Oooh. this is such a good one. I have realized a...Oooh. this is such a good one. I have realized after my kids have tried to share something and I've blown it by interrupting. I feel horrible later at loosing the opportunity to understand something from their point of view. It is a real regret. I've tried to recover and start conversations up again -you just can't get it back with the same genuineness and freshness. I've also noticed that when I have interrupted , especially with my teens, it has been to foist some gem of wisdom at them and when they weren't receptive, it was a waste of time and hot air. Oh well, live and learn!<br />Jane In Santa CruzJane Weed-Pomerantzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12684163217814749696noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-23387175367673463872010-01-09T13:27:44.723-08:002010-01-09T13:27:44.723-08:00I really need this tool card too! I find that I...I really need this tool card too! I find that I'm in such a "solve everything" mode all the time, that I'm not giving my kids the opportunity to solve things themselves (or with help) and feel good about doing just that. <br /><br />I love the idea of focusing on one thing for the week. <br /><br />Good luck everyone!The Oakville Pearsonshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18068252091353528307noreply@blogger.com