tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post3450081605564450757..comments2023-02-23T02:47:19.926-08:00Comments on Single Dad Brad: Put Kids In The Same BoatSingle Dad Bradhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00793094188276469644noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-41394906636923773982010-02-11T06:51:19.898-08:002010-02-11T06:51:19.898-08:00As a mom of just one kid I kinda ingnored this car...As a mom of just one kid I kinda ingnored this card for the week thinking it didn't apply to my world....but then discovered a work situation for which this was unbelievably applicable. By thinking about your card I was able to identify a situation where many of the divisions in our corporation had gotten used to "dad" getting called into problems that ran across them and coming up with the solution that was going to be best for everyone, let's call it the family perspective...and that now that "dad"'s not in a position to intervene, we really need to make sure these divisional siblings have the tools to figure out their own issues with each other in a way that benefits all the parties involved. And you're right, just letting them ignore each other isn't good enough, as it results in too many great opportunities for solutions that are better than what they could do alone end up left off the table that way. To do this right requires all the siblings shifting their approach to really feeling like they can and should explore alternatives with each other that they can all find value in.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-83854455987974331242010-02-04T17:29:47.499-08:002010-02-04T17:29:47.499-08:00Thanks Pixie Girl! :-)Thanks Pixie Girl! :-)Single Dad Bradhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00793094188276469644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-13942064623116693962010-02-03T09:51:55.517-08:002010-02-03T09:51:55.517-08:00Your story reminds me of something amusing I heard...Your story reminds me of something amusing I heard recently about parenting. One mom put her accomplishments into perspective by saying, "It was a crumpled kind of success". <br /><br />It's like when you re-do a math problem so many times that the paper is smudged and crinkled, but you finally get the right answer so you don't care-you're just happy you finally got it right!<br /><br />Luckily, in parenting, we don't have to do it right the first time, as long as we keep trying! So let's celebrate any success...even if it happens to be crumpled!PixieGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07028641305614879093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-35191263038835316772010-01-31T21:26:06.652-08:002010-01-31T21:26:06.652-08:00Brad, I told you I wanted to start corresponding t...Brad, I told you I wanted to start corresponding to your blog in my blog. This seemed like a good one to start with. <br />http://blog.positivediscipline.com/2010/01/put-them-in-same-boat-positive.html<br /><br /> I can see this card may need to be revised to focusing on solutions since it is so difficult to explain all the intricacies of why it is important to treat children the same. I gave it a shot.Jane Nelsenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09163509440079037626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-82146335316640949532010-01-31T18:02:45.884-08:002010-01-31T18:02:45.884-08:00Brad, I also meant to say that I could have interc...Brad, I also meant to say that I could have interchanged your kids' names with my kids' names in that situation you described. <br /><br />I know that feeling that you have when you've gotten really upset and wished you had handled it differently. Your plan for this week sounds like a good one and I'm looking forward to hearing how it works out.<br /><br />Sibling fighting is the biggest, most consistent problem that we have...on the plus side, it will give us lots of opportunities to practice putting them in the same boat this week!Karennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-906175249378789287.post-84539192928232614672010-01-31T17:48:42.663-08:002010-01-31T17:48:42.663-08:00Oh boy, this will be a challenging card for us too...Oh boy, this will be a challenging card for us too. <br /><br />I actually posted a discussion called "My kids WANT punishment!" which turned into a helpful discussion on dealing with sibling fighting. Here's a link to the post<br />http://positivediscipline.ning.com/group/generalpd/forum/topics/my-kids-want-punishment?commentId=3355264%3AComment%3A15915&xg_source=msg_com_forum<br /><br />Good luck this week!Karennoreply@blogger.com